My sister, Isabell, got her Snow Queen costume recently. She hated it.
When she saw this costume in the catalog, she fell in love with it. Isabell wouldn't stop talking about it. She would go on and on about how perfect it would be and how beautiful she would look in it. And I agreed, that costume was so her. The tutu would fit her perfectly, and the whole thing would be stunning on stage. We couldn't wait for it to come in.
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| My sister's Snow Queen costume, from the Art Stone dance costume catalog. |
Weeks went by, and her tutu came in (the tutu and the actual costume came separately). It was a petite platter tutu rather than a full sized one, but it fit her frame magnificently. Isabell couldn't have been more excited. Her anticipation grew until, at last, the rest of her costume arrived. And then all hell broke loose.
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| Definitely doesn't look like it was supposed to. Taken 10/27 |
It didn't fit right. I don't mean that it was too small or too big, it just fit weird. It was as if that torso of the costume was too short, but it was also too wide. The costume wouldn't lay flat on the tut like it was supposed to. It would ride up high enough that I could see her stomach when I shouldn't be able to. It just didn't fit like the picture, and that infuriated Isabell. She had been looking forward to having the perfect costume, but the moment something wasn't what she had been expecting, her whole view on it changed. She didn't like it anymore.
Isabell was miserable for a while. She would get upset when watching other girls get their costumes and have them fit perfectly. She wasn't as motivated to do well as Snow Queen, and nothing could cheer her up. This went on for a couple weeks, until we found a solution to her problems. It turns out that there are elastic loops underneath skirt part of the costume. There were also clear buttons in the accessory bag for the costume. Apparently, we are supposed to sew these buttons to the waistband of the tutu. The loops go around the buttons so the costume stays down and fits better. When we found this out, my sister couldn't have been happier.
It seems that when people set high expectations, it can lead to disappointment. They want so badly for something to be what they want it to be. One small thing that isn't what they want, and they could be really disappointed. It's important to release these expectations and view life from an exploritory perspective (Christian). In order to not be constantly disappointed, it's important not to try to control every aspect of one's life. They just need to take a step back and enjoy what they have.
Most people seem to have this idea, this expectation of perfection in some part of their lives. But some people also say that nothing can go perfectly as planned. Is this them speaking from disappointment of their perfect dream not coming true? Or are these people that claim nothing can be perfect the ones free of expectation, and the seemingly inevitable disappointment that follows like a black cloud? Who's to say, but I do know that it's better to be pleasantly surprised than utterly disappointed.
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| The torso is wrinkly and doesn't look right. Taken 10/27 |
It seems that when people set high expectations, it can lead to disappointment. They want so badly for something to be what they want it to be. One small thing that isn't what they want, and they could be really disappointed. It's important to release these expectations and view life from an exploritory perspective (Christian). In order to not be constantly disappointed, it's important not to try to control every aspect of one's life. They just need to take a step back and enjoy what they have.
Most people seem to have this idea, this expectation of perfection in some part of their lives. But some people also say that nothing can go perfectly as planned. Is this them speaking from disappointment of their perfect dream not coming true? Or are these people that claim nothing can be perfect the ones free of expectation, and the seemingly inevitable disappointment that follows like a black cloud? Who's to say, but I do know that it's better to be pleasantly surprised than utterly disappointed.
Work Cited
Christian, Amanda. "Are Your Expectations Setting You Up for Disappointment?" Tiny Buddha. N.p. n.d. Web. 9 Nov. 2014.
It's true that setting high expectations can end up in disappointment but with patience, everything works out sometime or another. I loved the way you connected your sisters feelings to a bigger picture. I like how you described her excitement then her disappointment, it shifted the mood impeccably.
ReplyDeleteRemember this blog when we read The Great Gatsby (I can't figure out how to italicize that title--so pretend it is). In the novel, the narrator says, "No amount of fire or freshness can challenge what a man will store in his ghostly heart." This encapsulates what you are saying about over-dreaming.
ReplyDeleteGreat blog, but it is true. Loved how you gave your specifics at first then supported it with a bigger meaning.
ReplyDeleteSorry your sister got screwed more than a block of wood at the mercy of a 7yr old with a drill.
ReplyDeleteI loved this. This is some great advice for one like me who daydreams of perfect things all the time, and then of course deals with disappointment. It's nice to get a view of it instead of just live it, it kind of opens one's eyes. I really felt bad for your sister, will reading how things turned out I was getting upset for her. I'm glad things worked out in the end.
ReplyDeleteI know how your sister feels, we all do. I really wished that I didn't have my high expectations, things in life would be less of a let down.
ReplyDeleteI really like how this blog is set up like how Mrs.Farias said it should be. It has the specific then goes into generalization. I like how it also has a lesson to it. I hate when we expect something so much that we get super disappointed when it doesn't come it sucks. But your sister is beautiful either way. Nice blog!
ReplyDeleteI hope she was able to fix the problem with her tutu. Setting high expectations is something that has dissapointed nearly everyone on this earth. I don't understand why humans can't just avoid this obstacle because I know I can't I always expect something to go a certain way but end up miserable. The lesson in this blog was absolutely great!
ReplyDeleteThis post was lovely to read. I didn't expect that ending, but am glad it happened. I hope everything went well. This post really spoke to me.
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